Life is fair. We all have our problems. And we all reap what we sow. Measuring ourselves by a measuring stick created with certain learned ideals designed by a combination of individuals that didn’t account for your experiences means it isn’t all inclusive. Thus, it should be ignored, adapted, or replaced by you for you. Be the king of your life.
If life isn’t fair, it means someone is cheating…compensate for that. Make life fair or make life cheat for you. We all have that opportunity. Life is fair.